Wedding traditions and symbols

16th June, 2013 - Posted by Lia - No Comments

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Something old, something new and something blue – what do these mean? We hear them and we think of weddings immediately, but do we really know the meanings and the origins behind such phrases. Let’s examine what wedding traditions and symbols signify, to decode the mystery behind marriage.

The classic expression “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue and a sixpence in her shoe” comes from Victorian England, and apart from the sixpence, seems to have stuck to our modern wedding days.

The something old refers to the bride’s past family life, and is represented by a family heirloom, like a piece of jewelry. Something new is the wish for happiness in the future, and this is often represented by the wedding dress. Something borrowed is to remind the bride not to forget her friends and family, so it can be something like a piece of jewelry or a handkerchief. Blue is the color of faithfulness and loyalty – this dates back to biblical time when the color represented purity. While the sixpence tradition seems to have gone out of fashion, it’s there to wish the bride wealth.

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Another iconic wedding tradition is the veil, which is still used in many modern day ceremonies. This is there to hide the bride’s beauty and to ward off evil spirits, but another, less romantic explanation is that in the era of arranged marriages, the bride would cover her face until the groom had committed.

Confetti is a staple in wedding ceremonies, but traditionally this used to be rice or grains. This symbolized fertility, whereas the wedding bouquet is a fairly new tradition from America, that says who ever catches it will be the next one to get married.

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Seeing the bride is supposed to be bad luck for the groom on his wedding day, until he meets her at the altar, and apparently it’s also bad luck for him to see the dress before the wedding. So perhaps it’s better not to peek!

The tradition of carrying the bride over the threshold is supposed to protect her from evil spirits that are lurking in the home.

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While many couples have opted to go modern for their wedding traditions, many of the above are still seen today in contemporary ceremonies. They’ve all become ingrained in our wedding culture, even if we don’t really stop to think about where and when these traditions came about.

Top Wedding Ring Trends for 2013

1st January, 2013 - Posted by Lia - No Comments

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There are more things out there than the traditional gold band, so perhaps you have the option to get a little more creative when it comes to picking out your ideal wedding ring – here’s hoping this will help you get inspired in your ring shopping with the top trends from 2013.

Classic rings have never gone, no ever will, go out of style. If you want to add something a little special and personalized to them then you can have them accented or even engraved.     Choosing a ring that will always be in is a good sign for a marriage that’ll last for life. These don’t have to be the usual gold, you can go for something more daring like titanium or even a chic platinum band to make a statement that’ll last for ever.

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Diamonds are in right now and you can find plenty of wedding rings that are encrusted with the shiny carbon crystals. For a clean and light look, you can get an enduring platinum band with rings of small diamonds. These stones mean endurance, so you can appreciate the symbolism they bear when we’re talking about your wedding.

If you want something more modern and bohemian, then opt for some colored stones, whether you’re interested in a modern tension setting, a classic four-point or a vintage filigreed setting, picking your favorite color is the ideal way to personalize your wedding ring. You can even go for something more specific like a birthstone, or maybe pick a stone or color that symbolizes your relationship. Red rubies for passion or a cool and calm sapphire for harmony, accentuating your wedding ring with color is a great way to go about trying something different.

Vintage is all the rage in 2013, and what a better way to maintain that theme than with delicate vintage rings. Try some old round centered European rings or Asscher cuts. With the delicate stones and minimal engravings it’s almost impossible to go wrong. If you have a family heirloom – your grandmother’s ring or even a pendant, you can set this to create a wedding ring that actually means something to you, and who knows, maybe it’s something to pass down to the great grandchildren one day.

Finding the right wedding ring is as key as finding the right wedding dress – this is all about finding one right to your taste and personality, so make sure you take great care when picking one out!

endure the curveballs…

15th March, 2012 - Posted by Lia - No Comments

Hello to our fabulous readers–  

Hope Alcocer here, Marketplace Weddings’ In-House blogger. I hope that this blog post finds you well on this beautiful Wednesday afternoon. The lovely Lia has asked me to blog a bit more on here, get to you know all, and write on all things weddings as a weekly contributor. I’m honored!

I’m a bride to be myself,I got engaged on October 14th, 2011 and have been planning a September 8th, 2012 wedding. It’s been a crazy and stressful time yet so enjoyable to plan my dream wedding. My fiancee is in the military, so we’ve been comparing color swatches and honeymoon planning via Skype and email…it’s challenging, difficult and makes me assume I’ll start sprouting grey hairs sooner than later, but it’s worth it. I remember the real reason I’m getting married; it’s not because of the unique bouquets I chose, it’s not the designer dress or the one-of-a-kind menu- it’s because I want to spend the rest of my life married to my best friend, my other half, my soulmate.

This past weekend Evan and I endured another curve ball and due to military hangups we will need to postpone our wedding day. All of the time, work, and money going into a September 8th 2012 wedding is now put on pause until we figure out a better time where I know my fiancee can be home. My first reaction was to get upset and stress, then I was remembered that in the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter. It’s just a date. If it was meant to be on September 8th, that would have happened; until then, I’ll wait to set a new date and look forward to it. I’m learning not to stress the small stuff. One might not consider a wedding date ” small stuff” but I am choosing to look at it like that. If we can endure distance and still love through a time of difficulty and war, we can surely weather any storm that comes our way.

 

My advice to you today– breathe. Take each “hiccup” as it comes. Love more, and stress less. Five years from now after you’ve had your wedding day you will look back and realize that these hangups did not matter- it will just matter that you’re happy & love the one you’re with. 

 

Xo,

 

Hope

 

hope is getting married!

11th March, 2012 - Posted by Lia - No Comments

Hope, our talented blogger is getting married! It’s finally her turn! Below she writes about the special moment when he proposed along with a few words of wisdom ! Enjoy!

 

I write about 20 to 25 articles for different bridal sites, blogs and publications every month. And every time I sit down to write about the latest hair trends, the upcoming honeymoon hotspots for 2012, or bridesmaid Q & A woes that brides write me asking for the answer to.

 Last week, I began the next chapter of my life to which all of these wedding blogs and post finally apply to me and my life.  I got engaged to my best friend of eight years after he finally came home after a four month deployment toAfghanistan and asked me to marry him. I’m so lucky to be in love with my best friend. The hours upon hours of researching the different types of wedding cake flavors or how to engagement ring shopping are finally beginning to pay off—I got engaged!

The proposal story….he somehow manipulated me to head up to my old bedroom window at my parents house while we were visiting. After I thought he headed out for the night, I was pleasantly surprised to see him standing outside my window, on one knee with the biggest rock ever and asked me to be his wife. I’ve come close to finding my happy ending but every time before it came to a crashing halt. Not this time…this time it is perfect timing, to the perfect man, at the most perfect timing in my life.

So many wedding vendors and clients are telling me that they couldn’t be happier for me, because after writing on weddings for so long I finally get my happy ending. It’s exactly what they say—the joy and cloud 9 you find yourself on is unlike any other happiness I’ve ever felt. The happiness exuding from my friends and family, crying with happy tears and squealing for joy are memories I will cherish for the rest of my life.

It’s only been a week of being engaged to the most amazing man in the world, my soldier, my hero and I can already give you newly engaged ladies some helpful tips.

 

1. The first question people will ask you is if you set a date yet. Breathe easy, take your time to figure this out and do not feel bad when you don’t have an answer for everyone. We’re still finalizing our wedding day and want to make sure we choose the right one, at the right venue with the right budget.

2. Set a budget. My fiancée, originally, generously told me not to worry about a budget. In just a few days, no matter how much wisdom I have acquired in the wedding industry I can tell you that as a woman I most definitely need a budget.

3. Bask  in the happiness.  After announcing my engagement I updated my Facebook status and within an hour I had 65 likes…not going to lie, that excitement from everyone felt so good! Having a dinner to celebrate our engagement and taking pictures with everyone so happy for us is a memory I will never forget. Treasure it,  you only (usually) get to do this once so enjoy all that this special time is to you and your  fiancée.  

 

It’s only been a week and I’ve learned to take it all in, breathe, yet enjoy the attention and love at this special time. I’ll be updating monthly on my progress as a bride as I plan my own wedding—so excited to finally be a part of the bridal “clique” too!

Love & Wedding Planning,

 

Hope Alcocer

 

 

he said..she said: who’s right?

26th March, 2011 - Posted by Lia - No Comments

 

He said : “I want  ( insert your  fiancé’s  friends name whom you strongly dislike) to be my best man.”

She heard: “I want my best man to be that one oaf from my college days.”

Oh great. Your fiancé’s college bud( whom you cannot stand) is your man’s choice for best man. You cringe, most likely make a face behind his back, and fast forward in your mind to your wedding day: the best man is drunk, giving a sloppy toast, hitting on your bridesmaids….yep, total disaster ahead. Hold on a second and give this one some thought. While YOU may not like your fiancé’s best man, it is a reflection of whom he is closest to and feels has been there through thick and thin. Instead of putting a halt, consider sitting down and talking to the best man and casually let him know that you do want his behavior during the speech or during the wedding to be respectable. If he’s the guy your fiancé thinks the world of, then he should understand. While he may annoy you, he is your fiancé’s best friend regardless of what you think of him. Think of it this way, would you want him picking out your bridesmaids? I didn’t think so.

She said: “I want to invite my ex boyfriend to the wedding”.              

He heard: “I want to invite my ex boyfriend to the wedding”

Regardless of how you approach this topic, it is what it is: awkward. Thi.s is a consist dilemma among engaged couples and it is difficult to decide where to draw the line on this one. It all depends on the type of relationship you and your ex have post-breakup, as well as the relationship your ex and your FIANCE have. If it’s strictly platonic with a few harmless jabs thrown at one another here and there, then it should be a harmless invite. However if there are still lingering feelings between you and your ex or if your ex does not respect your husband-to-be, then you should revaluate.  Here’s something to keep in mind: how would you feel if he invited his ex girlfriend whom you do not trust and you do not care for at all? It would surely make you feel uncomfortable. Remember this as you scratch your ex off the guest list!

He said: “Whatever you want to do is okay with me”

She heard: “I don’t care about this wedding”

Ladies—guess what? He really meant ‘ Whatever you want to do is fine with me.”  If you want to get married in Old Montreal, and he says he is okay with it—then he probably is! Why? Because he loves you, he trusts your style and planning judgment AND he does not stay awake at night like you obsessing over the table linens. This is a classic tiff that occurs between an engaged couple. Women like to connect emotionally and see their fiancé involved in the decision-making, but in reality, all your groom is really concerned about is marrying you and spending the rest of his life with you. Usually, the decorating, styles, and wedding fashion decisions are more important to you than they are to him. Keep in mind that this is, in no way a reflection of how much he cares for you, guys just usually don’t sweat this sort of stuff. 

wedding plans made simple with a true montreal professional….

17th January, 2011 - Posted by Lia - No Comments

I’m talking from experience when I say that planning a wedding can be stressful and overwhelming. If I could turn back time and do it all over again I would definitely hire a wedding planner, someone who’s a professional in the field and most importantly someone who keeps the smile on your face on your wedding day! Jaime Korey from Over The Top Events  is a Montreal based seasoned wedding planner who’s at the top of her game. If hectic planning is not your cup of tea, she’s the one to call! We recently had the pleasure of interviewing her, getting to know more about her services, her approach as well as wedding trends for this year! Enjoy!

What can you tell me about your business and what you can offer your clients?

We offer personal service.  We actually strive to ensure our clients not only receive the best quality of style and service but receive a response in remarkable time (less then 24hrs).  Working for Over the Top Events are myself (owner and designer), one full time assistant, and during peak season of weddings we bring on one additional assistant, and two stagiers. We offer concept design and planning of weddings, corporate functions and of course special occasions.  Our average client has a mid to high end budget, however our passion is creating dreams for all our clients, we never turn a client away. We have planned and developed weddings for all cultures, as well as a couple of celebrities which we are very proud of.

What makes your business unique from other wedding planners?

I have a strong social and corporate background, with managing teams for both corporate and non-for-profit of over 100 people, I am positioned to manage and cater to any size of event.  With over 10 years of budget management and supplier negotiations,  I hold all the qualifications and understanding to contract negotiate as it is part of the responsibility, ensuring my client gets the best price is crucial without compromising quality of service.

  • I listen to my clients and keep communication open as there is no limit to emails, meetings or phone calls with us.
  • I hold Resort Group and event management of 6 years – Wedding Planning for 10+ years
  • With my knowledge of destinations (travelled & worked throughout North and South America, Caribbean, British West Indies, Mexico and Europe) creating a destination wedding goes without saying that I am your gal as I know the ins and outs of some of the most beaitufl locatins in the world, whether for the nicest pier for your ceremony, or the best location for your honeymoon, – so gives me a wider perspective on life
  • I design and develop events full time which allows my clients to be able to have my undivided attention.  This is my livelihood, which I take seriously, I am qualified and certified, with full liability insurance
  • I am extremely detail oriented and, know how to prioritize tasks and responsibilities, all the while handling numerous logistics and timelines at one, which permits my clients to have all the confidence that their event is always on my mind.
  • I’m a true believer in treating others as you wish to be treating.  Having said that when working any style of event, having a team player attitude is key, as we are all there for one purpose-creating an unbelievable event which will hold very dear to the client’s hearts.

What would you advise someone that are about to start their wedding plans?

Try not to get overwhelmed with all the details.  The most important thing to remember is that this wedding is yours and your fiancé, many times families opinions and egos get in the way of what you actually wish to have.  

Whether you are prepared to have a budget in mind or not, you need one to begin the ground work.  Discuss with a  professional your options so as to be better positioned in knowing what’s out there.  This is what I do, it’s my job to ensure I am familiar with not only vendors who have been around for a while, but as well all the up and coming ones!

Hire a planner, we have all the tips and tricks, and all the knowledge in developing YOUR wedding, all the while keeping you as stress free as possible.

Any advice on how a bride should go about hiring a professional to help with wedding plans?

First and foremost I cater to my clients and not my suppliers, meaning we don’t take any referrals fees.  I am often presented with the question what is your commission rate (from vendors) and I respond with the obvious, the discount is to be applied to my client.  When selecting vendors to work with, I consider my clients, and from there I am able to move forward with presenting 3 top selections from each vendor category along with a full description. 

Brides and grooms alike hire a planner because they are either (or both) overwhelmed and have no time to do all the leg work.  Ensuring that the lines of communication is always open, as well as selecting reputable and reliable vendors provides peace of mind.

Have you noticed a remarkable wedding trend for 2011?

-          more couples are opting for a unique wedding

-          color was and continues to be huge

-          bridesmaids are stearing clear of the traditional bridesmaids dress

-          there has been more third party entertainment

-          couples are becoming more comfortable with outside the box ideas.

 You can visit  the Over The Top Events Blog for the latest wedding trends and photos!