dealing with cold feet before the big day

10th September, 2012 - Posted by Lia - No Comments

Wedding jitters are normal, but perhaps your cold feet before the big day can be attributed to a few issues that you can deal with rather than calling the thing off.

If things have felt a bit un-frisky in the bedroom then relax. Just because you have some downtime in your sex life doesn’t mean it’ll stay like that forever. It’s more likely due to stress anyway – and all that wedding planning is hardly going to get you in the mood. Just wait and see how things turn out in the honeymoon and things will get warm and hot again.

So you’re worried about your fiancé’s ex, who keeps turning up. Perhaps he still has feelings for her? You ask yourself. It’s understandable you may feel insecure about the whole thing, but try to relax. Talk to your husband-to-be in a non-confrontational way and maybe take a romantic getaway together to find that spark once more. There is no better way to reassure your love for each other.

It’s just before the big day and all of a sudden your future spouse is getting on your nerves with every little thing they do? Don’t worry, it’s quite normal, and it’s natural that the pre-wedding stress is making you more irritable, impatient and even annoying. Perhaps take some time alone, recognize your mood and most of all try to keep things in perspective.

Are you having a bit of a pre-party panic? You’re more worried about the right flower arrangement, getting the caterers all in order and this means you’re not sleeping, you’re losing a lot of sleep and worst of all not eating. It’s important to stay healthy and as long as you take some time out to relax and look after number one, you’ll find you will return to a normal state.

And trivial issues don’t help. Your darling loves dogs and perhaps you hate them – how can you compromise on such matters? Maybe you have a cat and he doesn’t like them, how can you part with your much-loved pet? These are little issues that can be solved with compromises and are not worth calling the whole thing off.

Cold feet happen to everyone, and unless you’ve just found out your fiancé is a serial killer or you have room for genuine concern, the chances are these things can all be resolved in a practical manner. Remember – it’s just part of the change process